People like to talk about the reality of their relationships less than they like to face the fact that liver is good for them. But if you are going to live a long, happy, healthy life your relationships with other people can’t be ignored. Introvert or extrovert other people are as important to us as food. And though we don’t eat them, they do nourish us in other ways, and Its time to get rid of the toxic ones.
Truth be told, your family is your family. You can’t simply cut your kids or your parents out of your life just because they cause you a little stress. Sometimes there’s someone at work that drives you nuts, but you still need to go to work to put food on the table. Some people simply can’t be cut out. I’m not really talking about these people. I’m talking about that person you come home to every day.
Being in a happy loving relationship will literally make the stress from the day melt away. A toxic relationship, just like poor diet, will slowly kill you.
How do you feel when you step up to put your key in the door. Stressed? Anxious? Afraid? If so, why? Is it because you don’t know what that person will be like when you walk through the door? Do they constantly complain or blame you for everything? do they scream or yell or worse, simply ignore you? Or do they make fun of you with little jabs designed to crush your self-esteem?
Throughout the years I have known many people that live like this. Not one of these relationships got better.
Tough love time
The bottom line is, if your partner is standing in the way of you living to your potential, or worse deliberately sabotaging you. If they make you feel worse about yourself. They need to go. Period.
I know its hard. Sometimes there are kids involved or other concerns like money or a dog or whatever. People have a million reasons for staying. These are excuses. People cling them to avoid the pain of change. But change causes growth. Staying in a soul-sucking relationship that is hurtful, angry or adversarial is preventing you from experiencing the joy that you deserve.
You managed to get rid of the processed crap. It took some effort and maybe some pain, but you did it. You lost some of those foods you “love”, But you replaced them with food that made you feel good, food that made you love yourself again.
And so you can too with a toxic relationship. There may be pain and tears and guilt, but they pass. When they do, the door is open for someone who will lift you up, instead of tear you down.
You deserve to be happy.
How about you? Have you been in a toxic relationship? When did you realize it was time to leave?